Saturday, 20 December 2014


Reading that Louis Van Gaal has decided to break from Man Utd’s usual tradition of staying in a hotel by allowing the players to stay at home on Christmas night reminds me how difficult it is for football players over the festive break. Before you shoot me down in flames with the usual ‘well they get paid loads of money’ – true as that is (for a small proportion of players) – actually, having children myself, my view is that no money can replace being away from your children and family on Christmas. That thought leads me on to other points....
Many people really do not appreciate the sacrifices a footballer makes. Of course, before I proceed, I am not minimising how difficult it is for those millions of families struggling to heat their homes and put food on the table over Christmas, but that in itself does not mean there should be a complete lack of appreciation for the life of a footballer. Take a footballer playing for a club in Europe – perhaps the Europa League. At certain parts of the season that player can expect a schedule of travelling to say Belgrade on a Wednesday and playing the game Thursday night. The team will not normally travel back until the Friday afternoon after an overseas training session in the morning. Saturday will then be further training followed by a game on a Sunday. Whether you are a footballer, a nurse, a police officer or whoever, that is a long time to be away from your children and family on a regular basis. This can create its own pressures.

I know from experience that changing rooms can sometimes be an extremely lonely places. That may sound odd in the context of being surrounded by loads of people but those are the mental dynamics a player has to grapple around. They are ruthless environments. In no other line of work would such social pressure exist. Ask any player and they will say one of the hardest parts of the job is the boredom. Filling hours on end of free time can sometimes make the mind wander.

Whether that be having too much time to ‘over use’ social media or, in some cases, developing a gambling addiction. In his autobiography ‘RED’ Gary Neville, one of the most decorated players in the game, said:

"Gambling is a cancer in a dressing room...Gambling blows your mind. I can see why players fall into it. You've got money and you're spending a lot of boring hours in hotel rooms..." 
On top of this there is the strict diet a player has to abide by to be at the top of his game. When we are all tucking into our mince pies and cracking open a cold beer, a footballer, especially during the busy Christmas period will be lucky to have a square of chocolate. Talking of the Christmas period, I think it is vitally important, as a divorce and family solicitor, to have the understanding of how arrangements for the children need to be managed around busy fixture lists so that the children can maintain a proper and full relationship with their Dad. 

Unfortunately there is a complete lack of understanding, not only around Christmas arrangements, but also how a season is structured – how the arrangements for the children cannot be conventional. How off season, close season and pre-season are all very different components in a player’s life. It is important, for the sake of the children, that for example time with a separated Father is maximised in the off season but bearing in mind a player needs a holiday just as much as you and I!

The press intrusion and lack of privacy is a significant issue. I was listening to Harry Redknapp last week say how he was not permitting the players to have a Christmas party because words along the lines that ‘they only need to blink at the time of a picture being taken for it to be made out that they are drunk’. Whether people like to hear this or not it is a very difficult life for a player.

Players then have to live with the extreme highs and lows of being a footballer, something which actually I do not believe anyone can understand unless you have experienced them. Imagine one week scoring a last minute goal in front of 50,000 people and the next being injured. This can understandably affect a players mood and, whilst I commend the work of people like Dean Holdsworth (owner and founder of the NLFA) in raising awareness of depression in the game he will agree with me that more needs to be done. The introduction of player liaison officer does help whilst the players are in the game but my concern is the lack of support at the end of a playing career.

Why am I writing about this??

Well fair question.

All these ingredients can create a recipe for family difficulties whether pre or post retirement. It is not unusual, against this background, with all these external pressure, for players to separate from their partners or wives. In my opinion it is important for us to all realise the reasons why. I suppose I feel very protective of the profession and the players given my passion for the game. Quite frankly insulting and offensive stereotypical conclusions, made not only by members of the public, but also members of the legal profession demonstrates a complete lack of understanding of the life of a football player. Rightly or wrongly I believe my job extends beyond dealing with the legalities of a separation but to also support the player through what is normally a very difficult time.

Lee Millard of Wealth Solutions who looks after a number of players said this:

"Whilst it is true to say they [players] have many privileges many people fail to realise the many sacrifices they make."

So when you are cooking your turkey, drinking too much alcohol, opening the presents with the kids and, like me, eating yourself to the point of discomfort I think we need to appreciate the life is not as easy as the media would have you think.

Thanks for reading. Please do feel free to comment…. I work closely with a number of players in both the non-league and professional game. If any of these issues are affecting you please do feel free to get in touch. Remember you can follow me on twitter @MHandsFamilyLaw or look at my Facebook page “Mark Hands Family Law Blog” or connect with me on linkedin.

Wednesday, 26 November 2014


Dispute Resolution (DR) week….hmmmm.

DR week is  an awareness-raising week which aims to highlight the alternatives to court for separating couples and their families

Firstly, for the avoidance of doubt, I absolutely encourage people to seek to resolve matters in a dignified and cost effective way. I think this is a really good initiative. I am also a member of Resolution (an organisation of family lawyers who subscribe to a code of practice to resolve matters in a non-confrontational way) and I sit on one of the committees. I also believe all cases should be approached in this manner.

I am interested, however, to know exactly the extent of the impact of DR week on people presently going through the court process. It is a bit like pancake day- you eat them for one day - but will you eat pancakes all year round?

The reality is that any family solicitor worth their salt will explore methods of dispute resolution with a client. This is my issue with the requirement to attend mediation. From April 2014, unless in exceptional circumstances, you cannot make an application to the family court without first attending a Mediation Information & Assessment Meeting (otherwise known as a MIAM). Most family solicitors were already advising clients of these options before the new requirements were introduced.

Often it is actually more cost effective and indeed resolution focused to invoke a court timetable against an agreement in principle to enter into early settlement discussions. That may sound counter-intuitive but when there is perhaps an agreement between Husband and Wife to avoid court proceedings by negotiating through solicitors the pre requisite to that process will be providing ‘voluntary disclosure’. That process can often take as long, cost as much money and become immensely frustrating without a proper timetable in place.  You can therefore end up in a situation where a desire to avoid court proceedings actually has the completely opposite effect.

It is important to talk through all of the options at the very start of case. Getting a ‘feel’ for the case really can be as important as the legal aspects to make sure the process of resolving money issues does not become unnecessarily unpleasant.

If you would like to have a no obligation discussion about your options please do not hesitate to get in touch on 0121 203 5309.

Sunday, 23 November 2014


For some time now I have advocated the need for the profession to implement a more flexible and modern way of charging legal fees. There is a growing dissatisfaction amongst the public with the traditional way of structuring legal costs. Clients, understandably in my view, are craving more certainty with what a divorce is going to cost.

The problem exists in the very nature of the proceedings. Decisions made in divorce and family law cases are often shrouded by emotion. A difficult opponent, intent on making sure his or her spouse does not receive a fair share of the assets, does nothing to dilute this toxic mix. Throw in expert fees and suddenly you have a recipe for growing costs. Against this background it remains very difficult for a family lawyer to provide a truly accurate estimate at the outset. Indeed, and this is one of my ‘pet hates’, a sharp practice has developed amongst some firms who will underestimate at the outset to secure the instructions of the client only for those costs to rise beyond the initial estimate. It is important to give the client a realistic and transparent estimate at the start of the case. This is, however, often to my detriment when a client tells me that they have had a ‘cheaper’ quote down the road. Quite frequently the dissatisfied client makes contact with me 6 months later… I am sure you can fill in the blanks!

It is a fair point to say that a fixed fee, particularly in money cases, is unworkable where the future costs can be so uncertain. But actually – with a leap of faith – is it so difficult after all?

The main stages of a money cases are in all but exceptional cases:

1.    Preparing a Form E (financial disclosure);
2.    Preparing and providing representation at the First Appointment;
3.    The instructions of experts;
4.    The second hearing known as the Financial Dispute Resolution Hearing (FDR). This is where about 85% cases settle. In my own caseload I would say about 95% cases settle at this stage – if not before;
5.    The Final Hearing. Going as a far as a final hearing is extremely expensive and particularly unpleasant. In my view it should be avoided where possible.

I tailor my charges to these key steps. This usually works well for the client. They know how much it is likely to cost to complete the Form E, then to represent them at the First Appointment and finally how much it will cost to the FDR. Though it is almost impossible at the very start to estimate the costs to a Final Hearing, I explain to the client that we should work very much on the basis that we will reach a settlement at the FDR and, if that doesn’t happen, we will of course consider how much a final hearing is likely to cost. It is extremely important to carry out that analysis to enable the client to make commercially effective decisions (there really is no point, for example, spending £10,000 if the difference between settlement is £10,000!!) .

I therefore read with interest the recent comments of Justice Mostyn in the case of J v J. He said as follows:

He quoted Lord Neuberger who stated:

“That no-one has suggested a viable alternative is something which needs to be remedied, and the sooner the better. An approach to litigation costs based on value-pricing rather than hourly-billing is one which urgently needs to be worked out and applied. Rather than treating time as the commodity which is being sold, we should be adopting an approach where skill and experience are the commodities which are sold….”

Mostyn J continued…..:

“Two and a half years later nothing has happened …Perhaps the culture is just too ingrained to be reformed. In my opinion a litigant should be able to demand a fixed price for each of the three phases of an ancillary relief case namely (1) Form A to First Appointment, (2) First Appointment to FDR and (3) FDR to trial…”

Whilst I have to say, and this will be probably get me in trouble, there seems to me an element of irony in the learned judge’s comment given that he was himself a leading barrister in this area of law for many years and no doubt, having appeared in various high profile cases, would have been at the heart of the very “culture” he now condemns. In a recent case he said this about himself:

“Without being hubristic, I can, I think, rightly claim to be specialist in the field of what used to be referred to by the profession, and is still referred to in the Matrimonial Causes Act, as "ancillary relief". I myself, when at the Bar, appeared in the House of Lords in the case of Brooks v Brooks. I appeared in the House of Lords in the cases of White v White and Miller v Miller. I appeared in the Supreme Court in the case of Granatino v Radmacher….”


Fixed Fee Future?

Irony aside, fixed fees are a great way to provide certainty both the client and the lawyer seek. One should, however, remember that these types of cases are often the exception not the rule. We must also remember that costs can vary depending on the area of the country.

I am always happy to discuss and consider with the client a fixed fee pricing structure and at the very least structure costs to the stages of the cases so that the client can manage a budget. Keeping costs estimates up to date and making sure prior approval of the cost being incurred is sought by the client helps to ensure there are no unpleasant surprises. Being treated as you would like to be treated must also be the driving ethos behind delivering a service. 

If we are, however, to truly implement a change in the way we charge for family law services it involves, not only a change in the culture, but also support from the SRA who inhibit the use of fixed fee by stipulating that any fixed fee should be paid in advance. It is frankly unfair and all too easy to place the blame entirely on the doorstep of the solicitors and barristers. What we really need is for every practitioner, governing bodies, the judiciary, wider organisations (such as resolution etc) to lobby and work together for change.

If you would like to discuss fixed fees or any other matters please feel free to get in touch with me on 0121 203 5309 or

Monday, 21 April 2014


How much a particular course of action is going to cost and how these costs are going to be met should be high on the agenda at the outset. This has grown in prevalence since the legal aid reforms severely restricted access to legal services.
Parliament has sought to react, and to some extent dilute the impact of the reforms, by introducing, into legislation, the ability for a party to apply for a Legal Services Payment Order under s.22ZA of the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973. This is an order requiring your spouse to fund your legal costs, usually, and initially, until the Financial Dispute Resolution Hearing (the second hearing where constructive discussions and negotiations are held before a District Judge who will provide an indication to assist you in reaching an agreement)